Everyone has mental health, just like they have physical health. When mental health is good, people are more likely to feel happy, relaxed and confident as well as feeling good about themselves. However, everyone has bad days when they might feel a bit down or something happens in their life which upsets and worries them. It is just as important to look after your mental health as well as your physical health. If you have a low mood for a period of time, then it might be useful to talk to someone who will listen, take your concerns seriously, help you to manage your feelings and explore coping strategies. There is some information below about common issues which cause problematic mental health.
Anger is a normal human emotion. Everyone has a right to feel angry, particularly when they feel unfairly treated, or feel as though someone else has been unfairly treated. However, people sometimes get angry and don’t know why; often it is because other things in their life are getting on top of them. When this happens, people often react in ways they wouldn’t normally and regret afterwards, especially if this means that a friendship is broken or a relationship spoiled. They might physically hit someone, shout and lose their temper, break things and/or lose control. It might be useful to talk to someone or try a relaxation technique, or visit one of the websites below.
ANXIETY, STRESS AND PANIC ATTACKS
Most people worry from time to time or feel afraid of being in certain situations; a common situation for young people is worry about exams. This is usually short-lived and passes when the problem is fixed or the feared event over with. However, some people feel nervous or panicky for long periods of time and this can affect day-to-day life. They might then have trouble sleeping, feel tired and irritable, have difficulty concentrating, feel faint, and experience stomach cramps.
People feel stressed when they feel under pressure. For many people, a small amount of pressure can be good as it motivates them to complete tasks, undertake new ventures, revise for exams etc. However, when people feel under too much pressure they may then feel they are unable to cope. Everyone reacts to stress differently and has different levels of being able to cope. When someone isn’t coping they might display a range of emotions and behaviours eg be angry, tearful, sad, withdrawn, self-harm.
Extreme anxiety might result in panic attacks. These can be unpredictable and last for up to 10 minutes. When someone has a panic attack they might have difficulty in breathing and feel out of control. However, panic attacks are not life threatening and the feelings do calm down, but they are a sign that it might be useful to get some help.
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Everyone feels differently when someone close to them dies. How someone feels may depend on the relationship they had with that person when they were still alive and whether it was expected or sudden. There are a range of emotions which someone may have, including guilt and anger. Often people worry that there is something wrong with them if they don’t cry; this is perfectly normal. However, it might be useful to talk to someone or visit the following websites for additional support:
A lot of people talk about feeling depressed when they are down in the dumps but a person with depression will have felt this way for a long period of time. They are likely to feel sad, lonely, and/or tearful as well as lacking in energy. They may have little motivation to attend school, join in with social events, complete homework etc. There are lots of reasons why people become depressed including problematic family relationships, school pressures, friendship issues; there are also lots of different ways depression might affect someone including eating and sleeping patterns, self-harm, feeling suicidal. If someone feels this way it is important that they get help.
DISORDERED EATING, EATING DISORDERS AND BODY IMAGE
There are times when most people feel uncomfortable in their own bodies. However, eating disorders are serious mental health conditions and need specialist treatment. There are range of reasons why someone may develop and eating disorder but it is usually linked to situations that are making them feel unhappy and/or negative body image. Negative body image occurs when someone perceives their size and shape as being different to how it actually is. As a result they may feel ashamed, self-conscious and anxious.
Disordered eating can also take many forms and resemble an eating disorder in many ways ie skipping meals, dieting and self-induced vomiting but is less severe. However, someone with disordered eating would also benefit from help and support. Specific websites which might be helpful are:
People may self-harm for lots of different reasons eg bullying, friendship issues, problems at home, stresses at school. It might be that these issues cause someone to have unbearable and overwhelming feelings and they may start to self-harm in an effort to cope, or to express how they are feeling. People self-harm in different ways including taking drugs, smoking and drinking alcohol, but they might also hurt themselves by cutting, burning and taking tablets. Often people worry that others will think they are attention seeking and won’t be taken seriously so they try to keep the self-harm secret when in actual fact, there is a lot of support available. Specific websites include:
Everyone has problems sleeping from time to time. Sometimes it can be hard to fall asleep; at other times people find themselves waking up in the night and can’t always fall back to sleep. If someone has sleep problems for a long period of time then it can start to affect day-to-day life. It can affect mood, concentration and affect relationships with friends and family. Sleep problems can be caused by poor sleep routines , including not relaxing properly before going to bed, but can also be due to problematic mental health eg feeling stressed, anxious or depressed. It can be good to get help with these problems as this may have the added benefit of improving sleep. More information on sleep can be found at:
When someone has struggled with their mental health for a long period of time they may start to feel there is no point carrying on. Sometimes people say this to express how unhappy they are feeling; other people think seriously about suicide. If someone feels this way they should always get help and support, or let someone know how they are feeling so they can get support on their behalf. Specific website support can be found at:
Support at Maltby Academy
In Maltby Academy you can talk to House Managers, one of our Safeguarding Team (see below) or you can ask to talk to one of the Rotherham MAST counsellors who are based on-site in school.
Mrs S Graham: Associate Senior Leader, Designated Safeguarding and Wellbeing Lead
Mrs H Smith: Deputy Designated Safeguarding Officer
Mrs C Quarmby: Complex Case Officer
Sometimes we might have to tell someone else about your worries so that we can get the support you need to keep you safe and well. However, we will always tell you if we need to do this. If you don’t choose to talk to an adult in school then you can ask if a peer mentor/buddy is available or click here to visit the resources page.